Wednesday, August 05, 2009

Guest Post by Tanveer Naseer - "Making Life's Little Moments Count"


"Perhaps it’s time we realize we shouldn’t be measuring our life with those large yardsticks, that instead the happiness that fills our lives can often be found in all those little moments that exist in between the big ones." ~ Tanveer Naseer

If you’re like me I’m sure you’ve had days where the size of the To-Do list looks insurmountable, the weather outside is dreary and uninviting and basically, you find yourself without any motivation to get your day going.

On some of these days, when we’re stuck trying to figure out how we’re going to get our momentum back, we receive this unexpected but welcome distraction – an email from a friend thanking us for what seemed to us to be a simple effort, a congratulatory note about some recent work we shared on Facebook or Twitter, or perhaps just one of our friends sharing some humourous anecdote that makes us laugh. On the surface, these gestures are simple and unassuming; however, on those days where we’re facing down a bad case of the blahs, they have the power to make us suddenly bound forth with renewed enthusiasm and verve.

Without question, on those days where we feel uninspired or weary, these simple efforts are a welcome arrival, the emotional equivalent of a caffeine jolt to stir ourselves out of the doldrums. Unfortunately, it seems that it’s only when we’re in the proverbial dump that we truly appreciate what these gestures bring to our lives. In some ways, I suppose that’s because we all tend to measure our lives with rather large yardsticks, holding out for those big events like getting a promotion or the birth of a new child as moments that will bring happiness to our lives. Certainly, those events do bring much joy and excitement, but they’re also an uncommon occurrence.

Maybe that’s why these little moments on days when we’re feeling flat resonate so much – we don’t go out of our way looking for them, we don’t work to attain them; they simply appear as a result of the relationships, the bonds we’ve fostered with others. But just like those big events that mark our lives, these little moments have an effect on us, of making us feel better and motivated to keep going. And naturally, if those we have some sort of connection with can have such an impact on us through such simple gestures, it’s not hard to imagine the same happening to those around us when we give small offerings of our own.

Perhaps it’s time we realize we shouldn’t be measuring our life with those large yardsticks, that instead the happiness that fills our lives can often be found in all those little moments that exist in between the big ones.

Tanveer Naseer
is a writer whose work can be seen on his blog at http://www.tanveernaseer.com/. He also writes, directs and produces the internet drama series, "Star Trek: Unity". Tanveer lives in Montreal, Canada with his wife and their beautiful girls.

2 comments:

Rebecca Hickman said...

Thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom.

Maverick said...

Two lovely girls - one 13 or 14 and the other 10 or 11 - got on the A train at 14th Street one morning last week. They were obviously dancers, their tighs and leotards peeking out beneath their "hip" street clothes. The little one looked at the other, their eyes met and the little one smiled lovingly. The older one asked flatly, "Why are you smiling at me?" and the little girl just shrugged. I could see by the little girl's backpack that she was a regional ballet champion and then our eyes met. I smiled and she GRINNED the biggest ear-to-ear grin with a mouthful of braces that stole my heart and made my day. Still does.